Coping with the loss of a loved one on Valentine’s Day
Holidays can be harsh reminders of the love you have lost. Just as the winter holiday season seems finally behind you, Valentine’s Day arrives. Hearts, roses and messages of love and togetherness are suddenly everywhere.. It is so easy to feel alone and isolated around this holiday.
It seems that everyone is paired and happy, and you are acutely aware of being alone. Whether it is your first Valentine’s Day without them, or one of many, the day can be deeply painful.
Managing grief on Valentine’s Day
People might either be full of suggestions for you or avoid you completely. Don’t feel you have to listen to any of them. Do what feels right to you – and that can include deciding to pay no attention to the holiday at all. Above all be kind and gentle with yourself on the day. Show yourself some love and patience.
Have a plan
Sometimes having a plan can help ease the anxiety. There are many suggested activities online, but ultimately the choice is yours — including choosing to do nothing at all.
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